Forgive To Gain Freedom.
Forgiveness is a powerful practice that can help you come back to yourself. When something occurs, an event, a crisis, something that leaves you feeling hurt or betrayed you become emotionally entangled with the event or the person. Forgiveness is the act of “handing over” what has occurred. You are handing it over to a higher power and trusting that through the natural law or karma the person that has wronged you will have a consequence for their action. It is a decision to take back your freedom and to not let this event or person control you any longer.
Often the messaging around forgiveness is to forgive others and to forgive ourselves. It is not really in our power to forgive. Every choice we make has a consequence. There is no good or bad, right or wrong but cause and effect. You don't get to decide who is forgiven or what their consequences are. You get to decide that you will not let the event or person take from you any longer. When you forgive you cut the cord that has tied you to them or the event. You must acknowledge what happened- and then give it away. There is nothing more for you to do. When you forgive you get back your freedom and your energy.
If you choose to obsess or fixate on the event or how this person wronged you, you are giving away your power and your energy to something that is in the past. The past is affecting your present and you are choosing to suffer. Call back your energy, call back your freedom.
Forgiveness doesn't mean that you agree with what the person did or that you will allow this to occur again. When you choose to forgive and hand it all over to a greater power it gives you space to then observe your own consciousness. Often we blame others and focus on how others have wronged us because we are afraid to look at and acknowledge all the ways we have harmed and hurt others.
Focus on what you can control. You can control how you treat others and how you respond to events and situations in life. You can't control others and it is not your job to keep count or a tally on all the ways others have harmed you. All you can control is how you show up in the world. You will know you have reached forgiveness when someone mentions the perpetrator or situation and you feel compassion for them and neutral about the situation.
Practices to help you forgive - and hand it over.
Write down all your resentment and grudges. Go for it . Don't hold back. Then use Byron Katie's practice of THE WORK. Going through the 4 questions in The Work will help you have a different perspective about what occurred.
Now write down all the unkind words you have thought or spoken, write down all your injustices. Identify all the people you have hurt or harmed with your actions.
Resources
❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹 99 Reasons to Forgive by Geoff Thompson
❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹 Loving What Is by Byron Katie
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